As a person who has experienced counselling for myself, I know how helpful counselling can be; to have space to talk through things that are important, and to have a non-judgemental person listening to you, who is there just for you.
I am a BACP registered counsellor and psychotherapist in the person-centered approach, which means that I believe that in any given situation, you will probably have a better idea of what’s going on than I will. Sometimes you won’t be very clear on what’s going on or why, but counselling is about teasing those strands out so that you can see more clearly what to do and how to move forward. Counselling isn’t about me telling you how to ‘fix’ your life, but about being alongside you supporting you to look for your own answers. The best answers are those we find for ourselves, not those that are imposed on us.
My core counselling model is the person-centered approach, and I also have training in focusing-oriented therapy. If the idea of talking for 50 minutes worries you, you might want to consider the other things available, which to some might sound silly, but can provide genuine insights, such as drawing and colouring, or focusing, which is quite a different way of working than ‘traditional’ psychotherapy.
A central idea of my practice is recognising and accepting that people who come to counselling are unique individuals with a variety of identities. I am experienced in working with people whose identities aren’t considered “mainstream” and a list of the areas I have worked in can be found below. I am kink-knowledgeable and happy to work with clients who either live a BDSM lifestyle or engage in SM, BDSM/Kink practices. I work with people of all sexualities, and who hold various gender identities including non-binary identities and who have relationships in various monogamous or non-monogamous configurations. I co-ordinate a mentoring program for Pink Therapy aimed at trainees with non-normative sexualities and gender identities.
I am deaf-aware and learning BSL at present.
I work online only at present, with an easy-to-use free program that works similarly to Skype
As I counsellor I have supported people around a variety of areas, these include but are not limited to the following:
- Disability (visible and invisible)
- Spirituality (both organised religion and non-organised individual practices)
- Gender and sexual identity (including non-binary)
- Self-esteem and self-image
- Consensually non-monogamous relationships (poly, swinging etc)
- Eating disorders
- Sexual abuse and exploitation
- Sexual violence and physical violence
- 2014: Level two British Sign Language
- 2005-2014: Psychology research assistant
- 2015: BAPCA Conference (delivering workshop on kink-identified clients in counselling)
- 2014: Pink Therapy trans* conference (volunteer)
- 2013: BAPCA Conference: attendee
- 2015/2017/2018: Pink Therapy conference (volunteer)
Training and experience:
- 2016: LGBT+ inclusion (PACE)
- 2013-present: Counsellor -Timeout counselling
- 2015: Counsellor – CRASAC (rape crisis service)
- 2015: Pg.Dip Person-centered counselling and psychotherapy
- 2014: Level one focusing
- 2014: Level two focusing
- 2017: Levels three and four focusing
- 2018: Level five focusing (this completes the training process
I also (jointly) run the specialist training that Timeout offers to counsellors and have trained both staff and student counsellors in other universities around gender, sexuality and relationship diversity